A lot of you responded to my last post saying that Spock was the man for you. Tall, dark, and brainy, he played second fiddle to Kirk, but does that mean that he wasn’t an alpha male?
What is an alpha? According to AlphaMen, the characteristics of an alpha are leadership, confidence, inner-directed, humor, consideration of others, protective . They left out integrity, but I’d include that on the list as well.
Spock hits on most of these. He knows who he is (confidence), he does what he thinks is necessary (inner-directed), he does what must be done to protect the ship (“The needs of the many outweigh the needs of the few, or the one,”) and a case could be made that he even has a sense of humor (his ongoing debates with McCoy).
But he’s not a true leader. While Spock’s integrity and ability earned the respect of the crew, he doesn’t have the charisma necessary to inspire people to follow him–nor does he particularly want to. And that more than anything else is why Spock is a beta.
How does a beta differ from an alpha? He’s not a wimp, but he’s no pushover, either. He doesn’t need to be in charge, but he can be when he has to. He’s perfectly happy doing what he’s good at, but he’s able to step up and take command when necessary–and to relinquish that control when he’s no longer needed.
If alphas are the most popular romance hero trope, why is Spock so appealing? I think it’s because he’s the ultimate challenge. He doesn’t give his attention to every woman that comes along (unlike a certain alpha we could name). Only a rare and very special woman can attain his regard, and many of us, who are drawn to the brainy type, like that. We don’t want to be one of many. We want to be the One. (That’s one of the reasons I married my brainy beta. It didn’t hurt that he was pretty darn cute, too. :-))
So why does Spock do it for you? Or not?
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I can’t help but think of Sheldon from The Big Bang Theory whenever I hear anything about Spock these days 🙂
I don’t watch the show, but I did recently watch the YouTube outtakes from the Christmas show, and the dream with Spock action figure. Hilarious!
It’s a really good show. The whole family watches it here!
I love his intelect. But the fact that he shows no emotion is kind of a turn off.
When my sister and I were little we would dress up in my mom’s old bridesmaid dresses and play Star Trek- I always picked Spock to save me.
I used to dress up in an old cocktail dress of my mom’s. It had a sequined top and a big flouncy skirt. I never thought of wearing it while playing Star Trek though.
The appeal of using Spock is the challenge of making him lose control and show emotion over a woman. Resistance is futile!
He’s the ultimate stoic. The only times he ever lost it (as I recall) were in Amok Time, and on the ice age planet in the past, with Mariette Hartley. I always liked her. She was great in the Polaroid commercials with James Garner, too.
Alphas are the leaders, that’s for sure. Self-motivated and solid. I’d say Spock is pretty Alpha, especially since he clashes with the boss– the real alpha, Kirk. It’s true, you know. Women dig the alpha.